February 4, 2019 Office News

I recently attended my brother’s funeral and it was an opportunity to see relatives I haven’t seen in years. I am from a family of nine and each of my cousin’s families have 4 or more kids so, needless to say, the church was crowded.

The event was a sad one, unexpected death does that when the person who passes was way too young and vibrant to go. I was so pleased that my sister-in-law thought far enough ahead to already have a will in place. They have two children who both are married with one child each. There is definitely enough unexpected angst and confusion when a loved one passes and there is no legal document as to who gets what or how things will be divided. It can get ugly, I’ve seen or heard about enough cases to know.

I did get a chance to speak to my nieces and nephews about the need to have a legal document (a will) in place to avoid such confusion and lack of structure and how thankful they should be for their mother’s insightfulness and planning. They both agreed to start the planning process. Sooner rather than later.

To practice what I preach, my husband and I also started writing a will. I’ve had the document for months, why we waited I’ll only say that we kept putting it off, somehow it will get done. Amy, a paralegal, gave me an outline so that I could gather the correct information and easily submit a package. In the outline, one question was “Would you like to be cremated or buried?” We both looked at each other and said, wow, it never occurred to us to talk about it but it’s got to be part of the plan. I want to donate my body to science like both my parents did. My husband wants a funeral and burial, etc. But the point is, if you don’t write it down and make it legal, how will your children know?

BE PREPARED. Get it done now. It’s best for all those involved. Don’t waste time thinking about it. You can always update it. It’s not cast in concrete. Have something. JUST DO IT!

Please pass this on by forwarding it to all your Facebook friends who would then forward it on…..the word must get out!!!

January 30, 2019 Office News

You can’t underestimate how the death of a parent brings latent hostilities within siblings. Could go on for days with stories of how siblings you thought were all for one, one for all, let’s just do this right are quarreling over minor details, asking for extras, wanting to submit claims, angrily they should get this or that.

Wills preclude a lot of this. If the parent makes clear what is going to happen, there’s a defense against a lot of things. Please be prepared. There’s no substitute for getting your affairs in order.

January 29, 2019 Office News

As the New Year starts, our Marketing Director will be making greater efforts to post office blogs on your Facebook, with the hope of you finding some of your Facebook friends thinking it helpful enough that they’ll post it on theirs and then theirs and so on, and so on.

The word has to get out to BE PREPARED. There are just too many cases coming in to us where the estate has been delayed, families are fighting, charges and counter-charges. ALL of this can be avoided by wills, detailing things. You’re cutting off your nose to spite your face. If you’re young, READ the blog posts to parents, maybe even grandparents. It would be a big help to them.

If you don’t plan for your future, you’ve planned to fail. (If you fail to plan, you plan to fail). If you don’t care what does that say about your thoughts for those who have to deal with the mess?

January 28, 2019 Office Blog

My brother died unexpectedly last week, he would have been 69 years old today.

I remember having a conversation with my sister-in-law last year in which we discussed their need for a will, power of attorney and health care proxy. Because she lives out of state, Alex helped by referring her to a probate attorney in her area. She got it done!

She is a counselor at a local college where she educates students on their academic future. I told her that she should also counsel these same kids about having their parents and grandparents prepare for their own future. I told her about the website where they can learn all about probate law, check out the office blogs and let her know that we also have an Office Facebook. She said she will check out the video and blogs and pass the word. Educate them!

She was grateful that she was prepared. She can’t imagine what would have happened if she didn’t act when she did.

I spoke to my niece at the service Saturday who stated that grief is tough enough without having to worry about all the paperwork that gets left behind undone and the confusion and drama it can cause. She said she will think about preparing for her own family’s future sooner than she would have done if her mom never acted proactively. She told me she will have this conversation with her brother as well.